friendly reminder that 

  • you don’t have to call out oppression
  • you don’t have to shut up about oppression
  • you don’t have to be a nice oppressed person
  • you don’t have to be an angry oppressed person
  • you don’t have to identify primarily by what you’re oppressed by at all
  • you don’t have to censor your anger, or your naming and shaming
  • you don’t have to take shit from people saying “not all allies are like that” because you have the fucking right to be frustrated and generalize, they’ve been taking liberties with that about you for years anyway
  • you don’t have to be nice to allies who talk over you at all
  • you don’t have to spend energy fighting bigots or making the world a better place or whatever, your survival and well-being and happiness are more important