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i’ve heard bitch used for gay men before, but i still agree that it can be kinda skeevy and male-privilige-ey. like non-black poc using the n-word - you can’t reclaim something that isn’t generally about YOUR group.

i was discussing this with my (playing devil’s advocate) partner, and i think we isolated that part of the reason for my discomfort is how often the men who do this are also appropriating in general the “sassy black woman” stereotype in order to project their sexuality (to the point where i’ve heard a cis man proudly say that he was a “black woman in a white man’s body” which just wow seriously it would have been bad enough without him also being a transphobe), and how a wholesale adoption of an already misrepresented trope for the purpose of appearing more femme feels like misuse of an attitude developed for resistance to discrimination by a specific group reclaiming terms used against them

south park apparently (i have not watched south park, this is hearsay) did an episode where they celebrated the evolution of language via distinguishing “gay” and “faggot”, making the latter synonymous to “douchebag” instead, and that makes me uncomfortable for the same reasons: evolution of language is one thing, reclamation of words is one thing, but when it feels like justification for continuing to use a word that’s still oppressive to another group in the present day, i find it completely unacceptable

interestingly on a related note people who self-identify as fags or bitches are completely fine with me, but from what i’ve observed gay guys who call other gay guys “faggy” or women who constantly call other women “bitches” tend to be the biggest gender-role-policing people of all time

facebooksexism: “heterophobia.” “normal.” Friendly reminder to those of you outside religious circles that this is the sort of stuff teenagers within them see all the time. I’m technically a Christian, in all the ways that matter. But I can’t and won’t lay claim to the title because this is so often what it implies; because I’ve received from inside the church even more so than outside, “you can’t be one if you don’t believe cis and straight is the only way to be.”
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facebooksexism:

“heterophobia.”

“normal.”

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Friendly reminder to those of you outside religious circles that this is the sort of stuff teenagers within them see all the time.

I’m technically a Christian, in all the ways that matter. But I can’t and won’t lay claim to the title because this is so often what it implies; because I’ve received from inside the church even more so than outside, “you can’t be one if you don’t believe cis and straight is the only way to be.”

Source: i-hear-a-new-world

Smoking healthier than gay marriage

hugstoall:

Some unbelievably homophobic quotes from Jim Wallace, head of the Australian Christian Lobby, during a debate at the University of Tasmania:

I think we’re going to owe smokers a big apology when the homosexual community’s own statistics for its health - which it presents when it wants more money for health - are that is has higher rates of drug-taking, of suicide, it has the life of a male reduced by up to 20 years.

But what I’m saying is we need to be aware that the homosexual lifestyle carries these problems and … normalising the lifestyle by the attribution of marriage, for instance, has to be considered in what it does encouraging people into it.

We have to accept the unfortunate levels of suicide, the unfortunate levels of excessive drug use (are) because of the nature of the lifestyle.

Only because “the nature of the lifestyle” includes harassment from homophobic bigots like you.

Australia - you are supposed to be relatively free of insane, hateful religious fundamentalists. Why are your universities even giving this man a political voice?

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A radio personality in Cleveland is facing tremendous backlash after telling a father that he should get one of his male friends to rape his daughter to force her to turn straight.

Rape Away The Gay? Radio Personality Tells Father To Get A Man To Rape His Daughter Until She Turns Straight (via tommorrisdotorg)

[commentary, not sure where to add: This sort of casual homophobia and sexism is exactly why I was repeatedly abused as a non-gender-conforming child. (I intuitively knew it was just who I was.) I was too young to comprehend the culture which caused the trauma which has shaped most of my life… I’d hoped that things had changed by now, but given I just spent two hours talking with a cis female conservative friend about her vehement belief that women should never be equal to men (and that “god made them male and female one for the other” etc), we’ve a long way to go yet.]