eggreport replied to your post: am i justified in feeling uncomfortable about cis…
i’ve heard bitch used for gay men before, but i still agree that it can be kinda skeevy and male-privilige-ey. like non-black poc using the n-word - you can’t reclaim something that isn’t generally about YOUR group.
i was discussing this with my (playing devil’s advocate) partner, and i think we isolated that part of the reason for my discomfort is how often the men who do this are also appropriating in general the “sassy black woman” stereotype in order to project their sexuality (to the point where i’ve heard a cis man proudly say that he was a “black woman in a white man’s body” which just wow seriously it would have been bad enough without him also being a transphobe), and how a wholesale adoption of an already misrepresented trope for the purpose of appearing more femme feels like misuse of an attitude developed for resistance to discrimination by a specific group reclaiming terms used against them
south park apparently (i have not watched south park, this is hearsay) did an episode where they celebrated the evolution of language via distinguishing “gay” and “faggot”, making the latter synonymous to “douchebag” instead, and that makes me uncomfortable for the same reasons: evolution of language is one thing, reclamation of words is one thing, but when it feels like justification for continuing to use a word that’s still oppressive to another group in the present day, i find it completely unacceptable
interestingly on a related note people who self-identify as fags or bitches are completely fine with me, but from what i’ve observed gay guys who call other gay guys “faggy” or women who constantly call other women “bitches” tend to be the biggest gender-role-policing people of all time